shopping – Curly.Curvy.Candid

As tempted as I am to start this post with a quote from Macklemore’s song “Thrift Shop,” I won’t. I will, however, explain that the feeling of the song (and the reason it quickly became popular) is exactly why so many people love shopping at thrift stores. The thrill of the hunt, and the quest for a bargain can be intoxicating. It can also be why so many find it difficult and laborious.

One time, while flipping through the clothes in a local thrift store, my mom stopped and looked at me.

“I will never understand how some people look like they shop at the thrift store. I shop at the thrift store but I don’t look like I do.”

It took me a minute but I realized exactly who she means – the people who pick out the ill fitting denim shorts that look like they are from the eighties and pair them with a t-shirt for a resort they’ve certainly never been to. The people wearing the button down denim coverall dress that goes to their ankles without a hint of irony. It is a look that I think most people dread (though if it’s your thing – rock it!) and I believe is another common reason for hesitation to really enjoy thrift shopping.

Yet thrift shopping can be a beautiful thing for both your closet and your wallet. It’s no secret that thrift stores offer clothes at an extreme discount, since they are all donated. A thrift store can be a great place to upgrade your style if you’re on a tight budget, try out a trend without investing too much money, or fill out basics that you wear a often.

I’m hoping that these tips will help make thrift shopping into something that is easy and enjoyable for anyone willing to try.

thrifted items pictured: purple leather jacket, gold velvet shirt dress, blue velvet dress

—–> Tip One – Have a Broad Goal in Mind

Goals or quests or things you’re hunting (or whatever you call it) make thrift shopping fun and provide structure and purpose to a place that’s built around chaos. Many shoppers suffer from two common thrift goal problems. The first set has no goals at all, and often leaves the store regretting half the things they purchased. The second set has goals that are too specific and leave empty handed and frustrated. I like to have two or three main goals that I keep pretty broad: comfortable dress pants, black sneakers, and chenille sweaters have all been thrift shopping goals of mine in the past. Sometimes I find what I’m looking for, and sometimes I don’t, but making the goals broader gives more room for success. Having multiple goals helps too, because if you realize it’s just the wrong time or place for one item, you still have other things to look for and it won’t feel like such a waste of time. Keep an open mind though – if you’re too laser focused on your goals you might miss something amazing.

—–> Tip Two – Size Is Just A Number

Never has this statement been more true than when you’re at the thrift store. If you struggle with sizes, try starting a thrifting experience with self acceptance – this is who I am right now, and that’s okay – because starting positive will color the experience in a positive light. Also, remember that at the thrift store you’re working with sizing through the ages. A 10 in the seventies won’t be the same as a 10 today. Not to mention that sizing can change drastically from brand to brand. I start with a base range of medium for shirts and 10-14 for pants. If I try on a bunch of pants or shirts in a row that don’t fit, then I expand the range in whatever direction I need. Remember: no one will care what the number says if the clothes fit well.

thrifted items pictured: grey pants, red sweater, green pants

—–> Tip Three – TRY EVERYTHING ON

This is probably what I would call the golden rule of thrift shopping, so I will say it again – try everything on. I don’t care if it’s not your style, or your size, or you don’t think it will work, or whatever… you really do not know for thrifted items until you try them on. So many of the items you pick up and laugh about or scoff at will end up being favorites, and just as many pieces you think you love might not work. If it catches your eye then it’s worth trying on.

—–> Tip Four – The Buddy System

Thrift shopping generally works better if you bring a friend (or a few) for several reasons:

having someone to chat with makes sifting through the piles and piles of things less of a chore
a friend makes a good editor to help you if you are on the fence about an item. Sometimes even just saying your reasoning for or against an item out loud is enough and this comes off a lot less crazy if you’re with someone.
more sets of eyes means higher likelihood that you will find what you are looking for.

thrifted items pictured: teal sweater, purple skirt, flower raincoat

—–> Tip Five: “But It’s Only $3!”

This is by far the greatest thrift store struggle and one that leads to the most post-thrifting regret: buying an item because it is cheap. When an item of clothing is surprisingly cheap, a switch flips in our brain and we start to rationalize why it might be worth it. This is the reasoning behind the impulse shelving at stores – it’s easy to throw a bag of chips or candy bar in at the last minute because it’s only ___ amount of money. This is even more problematic when it comes to clothes, especially if there’s one thing we already like about an item. Here’s an example from my most recent thrift:

Sifting through the sweaters, I find a cardigan in a light peach color made of suede. The garment fit okay, and it was so soft, and it was only $3, and I was so tempted to buy it.
I eventually decided against it because a) I don’t really wear suede, b) it’s not a color that goes with anything else I own, and c) I knew I wouldn’t wear it

When you’re stuck in the impulse, it helps to ask yourself some key questions that weed out things that just won’t fit in your wardrobe. Here are some of the key questions I use:

Does this go with things I already own? try to mentally create three outfits
Do I actually like this color/style/fabric?
Is this an item I usually wear? i.e. if you’re always hot but tempted by a coat, you should probably put it back
If I was exhausted, would I pick this item to put on?
Where/when would I wear this item?

If the item misses three or more questions in a row, then it’s not worth it.

Any of these tips helped you? Feel like you’ve tried all these and are still stuck? Have any tips of your own? Have a specific question about thrifting? Feel free to comment below!

“Oliverrrrr” I call out, laying on the bed and looking at our closet. He comes to the bedroom.
“I hate all my clothessss” I cry, with a dramatic flourish of my arm toward the closet and dresser.
“What about that colorful striped sweater you love?” He asks, confused.
“Yes, but I already wore it this week, and I wear it all the time, and I hate everything else.”
Me, literally all the time.

This happens to me roughly every three months. It’s strongest at the end of winter, when I am so very tired of being cold all the time, but definitely occurs in varying doses throughout the year. Usually a conversation like the one above will happen, and then Oliver will kindly remind me that we are saving for XXX. This year it’s our wedding and honeymoon. In the past it was some other big exciting vacation, or moving to a new place, or to buy furniture for our apartment, or many other very logical things people save for.

This often means that my budget for buying new clothes is roughly $100 (and often much less). On top of that, I’ve recently set myself with a goal of upgrading my wardrobe from cheap, fast fashion pieces to quality garments that will last. This can make shopping super difficult. Here are my tips and tricks that help me keep my closet and style fresh without breaking the bank.

—–> Step One: Thrift What You Can

I will eventually write a longer post on how to shop at thrift stores, because these can be essential when the fashion duldrums set in. While $100 might not last very long in the mall (or will get lost in fast fashion pieces that will fall apart the minute you wash them) it can buy you several quality items at the thrift store. I find this especially useful when I’m looking for pants because I’m not relegated to a few different brands or styles – and pants can be so expensive in up front cost to get something good. Plus, if you do end up with some fast fashion pieces, they cost you $3 instead of $25 and you’ll feel a lot better when they inevitably fail you.

—–> Step Two: Shop in the Off-Season

You know when swimsuits are super cheap?? August. This is a really great strategy for splurge items, where you know exactly what you’re looking for, or seasonal pieces. Give your heavy coat another season, and then in March start scanning through end of season sales. Most brands and stores start transitioning into the next season about one-two months early, so keep this in mind. It’s also a useful trick when you want to get something in a certain brand but don’t have the money to do a full buy in. BE WARNED — sales can be a huge pitfall. This isn’t a ‘trick’ if you’re scanning every sale for something you might like. Be very focused on what you’re looking for, and intentional about when you’re shopping, or you’ll spend money you don’t have on things you don’t need and be unable to afford garments you really do need to fill out your wardrobe.

—–> Step Three: Fast Fashion for Trendy Items

If you’re looking for something that’s super trendy now, but might not be wearable later, don’t splurge a bunch of money on it, especially if it’s out of your normal style or comfort zone. For these items, say trendy purses/bags, funky unusual shoes, or trendy patterned clothing, you will be fine finding something at a fast fashion store (Target, Forever21, H&M, etc.). The smaller price tag lets you try a trend without feeling like you wasted your money if you hate it, and if you end up loving it, you can always upgrade later when your budget has had time to grow.

—–> Step Four: Don’t Be Afraid to Online Window Shop

… That’s right, online! What I do is while mindlessly scrolling through some website that caught my eye, I’ll save links to items that I like in a specific folder. Then come present-giving events, I have lots of different links I can send to people of things I already know I want but can’t necessarily afford to buy for myself. These links also give me a good idea of what I am really hunting right now. Say that all of my last four links were a specific style of hoodie, then I know that is an item I really want to search for. Also, a lot of sites have an option to email you alerts when they go on sale or come back in stock. For an item you really know you want, this is a great option. Finally, this step helps you slow down on impulse purchases. If you get in the habit of saving a link instead of clicking purchase, you’ll end up saving money too. Give it a week and if you still can’t get it off your mind, then see if you have enough money to buy it.

—–> Step Five: Watch Impulse Buys

While this sounds more like an entry on “10 Ways to Cut Coffee and Save!!!” I promise this is a real tip for finding clothes on a budget. Learn to recognize your impulse buys and stop them before they happen. I find that trying items on helps a lot. As soon as I start making excuses for an item – “Oh, it doesn’t quite fit on my waist but it’s something that I’ve been looking for!” – I know that I really should put it back. I also know that if I texted an item to a friend, it’s likely because I am on the fence. If you’re on a tight budget – on the fence means no, every time. You don’t have the money to waste on maybe. Learn what your triggers and habits are: do you always fall for fall colors? Do you get sentimental around hats? Do you have a weak spot for sale prices, even if they aren’t that good? Once you’ve identified problem behaviors and thoughts, you can take measures against them and keep your bank account ready for the items you actually want.

—–> Step Six: Have Patience & Save Up for Important Pieces

I will write a larger post going into more depth on what items it’s worth splurging on and what items you can afford to buy cheaper. But here’s my golden rule: if it’s something really central to your style or that brings you a lot of joy when you wear it, then it’s worth the patience to save up some money and find the right one in a good, quality brand. Whether this be shoes or coats or sweaters or jewelry or jeans… if it’s important to you then it will be worth the wait, and the larger price tag. I have found throughout my life that the items I splurge on, especially when money is tight, end up being items that I wear every single day.

Any of these tips helped you? Feel like you’ve tried all these and are still stuck? Have any tips of your own? Feel free to comment below!

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